Tuesday, April 28, 2009

And so it goes

I'm peeking over the corner at week 14 of this pregnancy and beginning to see moments of brilliant non-puked-on light peeking through. Now, I'm not going to get all "OMG, 2nd trimester is amazing" already, but OMG, PLEASE 2nd trimester, come through for me, baby!!

My belly is seriously out there and I'm really loving some of the new (consignment) stuff that I've gotten over the last couple of weeks. My body type really is suited very well for pregnancy. Although I have a pretty even distribution of extra uhhhh....love! Yeah, let's call it love!.....I do carry quite a bit in my tummy. My legs are slim, my ass is small and then my tummy kinda takes over. So my bottom is like a size 8 and my tummy is more like a 12. So maternity pants are kind of my best friend. I can fit nicely into a size medium jeans with that nice beautifully stretchy waistband.

I scheduled the ultrasound on June 2 which will tell us the sex of the baby. I truly don't care, which is strange for me. We really wanted a girl with a first, but Finn is like the best thing that ever happened to me - so I figure whatever I get is exactly what I'm supposed to have. It would be pretty incredible to experience what having a girl is like, but also pretty cool to have little boys, potentially brother buddies.

Mike and I also sat down and had the "how much do we need to save for maternity leave" conversation last night. This is depressing, since I am the one that brings in the larger salary of the two of us. I REALLY wanted to try to take 12 weeks this time (I did 9 with Finn) and there is just no way to make it happen. We aren't barely scraping by, but our idea of a luxurious night out is Qdoba and a rental movie. We don't exactly have a whole lot of places we can cut back on. We talked about various things in the house we could possibly sell, but we don't keep a whole lot of extra shit, so this isn't too much of a money source. We both work full time, he also goes to school full time, which leaves me with the kiddo alone in the evenings a couple of nights per week. The likelihood of either of us finding extra work right now is pretty low. How do couples do this?? And furthermore, how do couples manage to actually have one parent stay at home full time? It just doesn't add up for us.

Also, something slightly random - I wasn't necessarily keeping this blog a secret from my husband, but I just didn't tell him about it. He'd be fine with me doing whatever...I just wanted it to be my private little venting/sharing/emoting/sappy/whatever place. However, the other day, he joined twitter and I accidentally followed him on my Belly account instead of my public account....therefore, revealing my website to him. So once I realized I did this, I told him about the blog right away instead of letting him find it. And so check this out - he hasn't even looked at it. This just proves that opposites attract, because LET ME TELL YOU, if I found out he had a private blog where he was sharing his thoughts on WHATEVER, I would be lapping that shit up in like 2.2 seconds. Maybe it's because I never shut the hell up, so he is probably thinking "what in the world could she be talking about that I don't already know." Good point.


Parsing Nonsense said...

It is super hard to figure out how to make finances work with kids! Wes and I would love to have me stay at home with our kids, but making it work is tough. Hopefully if you two save enough now you'll be able to take a decent maternity leave later!

Mildred Carroll said...

Woo-hoo- congratulations on coming to the end of the pukey part of your pregnancy! My daughter is on her 4th pregnancy in 4 years and was always thrilled to have that over with. I guess I lucked out, as in 5 pregnancies, I only tossed my cookies twice! (And they were actually blueberry pancakes! - OK, I know, TMI!)
But what I really wanted to comment on is your dilemma with being able to take a nice mat leave. Our baby # 6 was GIVEN to us with only 3 weeks notice, when our 'baby' was 11. (yeah, yeah, I know! Remember I did 5 the hard way!) Obviously that took some adjusting so I started looking for a way to keep up my income but still stay home with the little one. Well, I found it! For the past 7 and a half years, I've been a full time stay at home mom, (Grandma for the last 3.5 years)have worked part-time around MY schedule and have still brought a substantial income into our home... including enough to pay for the $14000 adoption bill. If you are serious about your dream of staying home with your kids, email me and I'll tell you how I can help. No obligation, no risk, and all the help you need from a mom who's been there and done that, ALL that!
I do wish you a happy result to your search. There is NOTHING better than having the freedom to enjoy the little ones while they're little!

Becca said...

Hi, you followed me on twitter and I just had to check out your site! Thank you for following me. :)
Anyways...you are only a week ahead of me in your pregnancy.. I had no idea you could find out the sex this soon. I'm gonna have to ask my doc about that my next visit.
I have been pretty lucky with the morning sickness...I mostly just feel sick and don't throw up. I hope yours starts getting better though! Most people tell me that it should start easing up by now.
Anyways, cant wait to read more!

Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com said...

Congratulations on reaching the beginning of the second trimester. I hope it comes through for you too!

And I'm with you, the maternity leave conversation is ridiculously depressing. I hope by some act of G-d you are able to take more time than you anticipate...